Cord-Cutting: A Key to Letting Go

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Cord cutting is a process of disconnecting yourself from the energy of people, experiences and places that hold you back.

Cords are energetic connections that link you to an infinite number of energies from your past and present. In my experience, cords are as many and varied as the relationships and experiences we have. You don’t have one cord with your husband, you have cords that link you to the person, the way you met, and every experience you have shared together. This is a beautifully complex picture.

Some of these are positive. They will connect you to good experiences, people you love and things you have learned. These cords do not need to be cut.

The cords we are looking at here join you to pain, fear and sadness. Even if you feel you have moved on from past trauma, you may still be linked through your cords. This will lead to patterns repeating in your life over and over again. It might mean you well-up with tears every time a particular memory comes up, that you repeat similar bad decisions, or that you flare easily into anger if your buttons are pressed.

Essentially, these cords link you to your baggage, to the pain, fear and distress that is holding you back. By cutting the cords, you can release yourself fully from these past influences, letting go of negative conditioning and allowing yourself to create a more positive existence.

The first and most important thing to know about cord-cutting, is that the cords will only disconnect if you are truly ready. If you’re not, the cords will remain steadfastly strong until you move into a different level of awareness.

Being ready is partly about wanting to let go. If you’re trying to cut from a past relationship, but are secretly holding onto hope it might reignite, the cords will remain strong. However if you are really finished, you may be ready.

The other element of readiness, is your understanding of the lesson being presented.

Imagine that before you are born, you have a meeting with your guides, and the higher selves of those you will be incarnating with. Together you agree the lessons to be learned, and the ways you need to develop. This soul contract outlines your Karma.

Whether or not you learn the lessons in your Karma comes down to free will. As an incarnated being, you probably won’t remember the contents of your soul contract, or even that there is one. So you need to make the right choices in order to learn the lessons. If you don’t, the lesson will be presented again in different forms. Each time, it is likely to gain in intensity, making it harder to ignore. But the choice to ignore it is still yours, no matter how hard that might be.

In order to cut the cords, you must learn the lesson, otherwise you cannot disconnect. So before you try to cut, think through the issue in as much detail as you can. If possible, talk it through with someone. Be as honest with yourself as possible. If you’re blaming someone else, you’re not seeing the lesson. Another person may have been a catalyst and they may have their own learning, but that is irrelevant to your lesson. Try to answer these questions:

  • Is this a pattern I keep repeating?
  • Am I responding from a place of fear or of love?
  • If I’m responding from fear, what am I scared of?
  • What is the worst thing that could happen?
  • What do I gain from reacting in the way I do? (Maybe a scapegoat? The moral high ground? Pity?)
  • What would I gain if I came to the situation with kindness, love and compassion instead of anger and fear?
  • Is the fear rational or irrational?
  • If it is at all irrational, does it trigger an experience I’ve had in this life?
  • If not, does it relate to dreams I’ve had, inexplicable fascinations, intuitions etc that could indicate a past life?

Think and talk through these and other questions until you really feel you have a good grasp of what you need to learn. Focus on your own responsibility and learning, this is what will further your development.

When you feel you have reached a resolution, find a time and place where you can be left alone for a while. Lie down and close your eyes.

Imagine that you are standing on an empty beach. The sun is shining down on you from above, warming the water that laps at your toes.

See yourself standing in the shallows, looking at the problem or person you want to let go of. It/they stand in deeper water, but they are joined to you by a long, golden cord.

See yourself pick up a pair of scissors, a sword, a blow torch, an axe or any other kind of cutting implement. With all of your intention behind your action, see yourself cut through the cord. It falls away, and you light each end, allowing it to burn up to its source and then fizzle out. This does not cause any pain or damage.

See the problem or person begin to float away from you into the ocean. Send them into the light with love. Wish them well.

As you can see, the process of cord cutting is easy. It is an exercise in imagination, but whatever you truly intend will come to pass if it is in line with your path. So if you put your intention into this one hundred percent, the cords will dissolve, as long as you have learned the lesson attached to them.

The hard part of cord-cutting, is knowing whether or not it has worked.

If you have psychic or intuitive ability, you may know whether or not you have been successful. If you’re too close to the issue to know, you may have a friend to ask. When I first started, I double-checked with a psychic friend. Now, I can see whether or not the cords disconnect. If I’m not done, they remain stubbornly intact no matter how much I hack away with my sword.

If you haven’t developed your psychic skills to this extent, you will need to wait and see. Ask the Universe to send you a message. This could come in the form of an event that triggers the same emotions. You might find you don’t feel the distress you did in the past. Or you may feel that nothing has changed.

If there’s no improvement, don’t worry. Instead, dig deeper into the lessons you need to learn. If you carry on chipping away at the levels of understanding, and keep attempting to cut the connections, you will be successful in the end.

Cord cutting is a wonderfully liberating experience. It can release you from negative patterns you thought were yours for life, and offer you a whole new way of looking at the world. If this appeals to you, take the opportunity, put your full intention behind it, and see what this clearer, lighter life can offer.

I also have a YouTube video on cord cutting, on the Guiding Echoes channel. If you would like to watch it, click here.

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  1. Cindy

    Insightful and timely post. I’ve done a cord cutting meditation in the past, but I didn’t ask the questions first, so while I had the proper intention of letting go, I hadn’t acknowledged the lesson, nor had I taken personal responsibility. This was exactly what I needed!

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      Martha Dunlop

      Hi Cindy,

      I’m so pleased you found it helpful. It can be frustrating when it doesn’t work straight away, but it’s so liberating when the cords release. It’s well worth the effort. That understanding is so vital to bringing that moment to reality.

      I hope you figure it out soon, now you have a new direction.

      Martha x

  2. Catherine Brooks

    Thank you for all your help recently. I think I am cord cutting not just from my previous relationship (although I think that will present new challenges from time to time), but that I’m learning patterns from the past ❤️

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      Martha Dunlop

      Fabulous, Catherine. That’s a wonderful realisation. Discovering that and disconnecting should let you move on much more easily from issues in your present as well. The past just keeps using our present to reflect issues back to us, so the fewer past issues there are, the more we flow. Do let me know how you get on. 🙂

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